If It Weren’t for Welfare…

The governor of Michigan, Rick Snyder, decided to set a 4-year lifetime limit on cash welfare benefits. Well, well, well. It’s about time! OK, wait, take the wrinkles out of your forehead and peep this. If it weren’t for welfare, the world — or at least the U.S. — would be a better place. Why? Because welfare cripples the mind and the spirit. Once one has reserved him or herself to dependency, it is hard to turn back. And if you read my first post, you know I am all about stepping out, living life to the fullest and getting it done.

Now, I am beyond sympathetic to individuals and families who are struggling to make ends meet. Especially during this economic downturn which has fittingly been dubbed “The Great Recession.” I understand that life circumstances (i.e. lack of education and/or exposure, criminal history, physical or mental disability, lay-offs, etc.) have great potential to directly impact one’s ability to provide financially for his or her family. However, there are practical solutions to all of these problems. The solutions may not be easily gained and someone who is accustomed to getting assistance from the government is less likely to have the get-up-and-go required to overcome adverse life circumstances that ultimately lead to financial instability. That in itself is reason enough to limit how long an adult can receive welfare benefits. Notice, I said adult. Children are just that. They are dependents. Not fully mature beings who deserve and require assistance to acquire and maintain a high quality of life marked by adequate nutrition, clothing and shelter. That’s why I like Indiana’s welfare policy — a two-year limit for adults and no limit for children. Hey, if you choose not to use 730 days of assistance to find a job, that’s your business.

Adults are fully mature beings. Well, supposedly. And even though childhood experiences have a significant bearing on the type of adults we become, we can not use them as an excuse or “reason” to be crippled! I don’t appreciate the “product of my environment” defense one bit. And in the future, I will discuss that mindset across many platforms. I understand the psychosocial implications of childhood experiences. Trust me — I know! I get it! We all live with some of the choices that were made for us or around us as children every day. Good and bad. Right and wrong. We may see the ways of the people who reared us in ourselves. Sometimes their voices shoot right out of our mouths. The example they set has been our blueprint.

But you see, that’s the beauty of being an adult. We get to do it our way. We are allowed to reflect on everything we saw, heard and went through as children. After reflecting, we can sort through our experiences and decide what we want to apply directly to our lives and various situations that come about, use as examples of what not to do or use as motivation to get to where we want to be and how we want to be.

For example, if you grew up in a single-parent household that consisted of two bedrooms, five siblings and thousands of play-cousins named “Roach,” you should milk this experience for all its worth — good and bad. Perhaps you want to be as strong as the single-parent who kept a roof over your head (no matter how meager). Maybe you want to always stay as resilient as you were as a child in this situation. It could be that you know above all that you will not have that many kids and the ones you do have will get their asses whooped if they don’t keep their rooms as pristine as military quarters — it’s no way in hell you are going to have roaches in your house!

Now, I know things go deeper than that. Some people have horrible parents or no parents or like me, a situation that falls somewhere in between. Some people are molested and raped as children, or beat everyday, or watched their mother get beat everyday. This is not about these tragedies. My heart aches for people who have demons like this to face. Continue to fight the good fight and press forward.

I am speaking solely about a person making a conscious decision to go to their local assistance agency and sign up for welfare without having any real intention or game plan for making it without welfare. Now, if you grew up with a mother who was more than content with her welfare checks and had no intention of getting a job or a father who’s biggest tip to you was to have as many kids as possible because each body meant a bigger check, then I can empathize with your state-of-mind. I would call your parents trifling but I won’t because for all I know, there parents could have been setting them the same self-deprecating, hopeless example. It is a vicious cycle.

That is why someone has to break that cycle. All of the financially empowered persons, cultured and well-rounded families, stable businesses, churches and non-profit organizations that make up the community need to come together to educate and empower people to be self-sufficient. Likewise, people have to want more for themselves, not only financially but in terms of health, career goals, interpersonal relationships and spirituality. I know that a shortage of positive role models makes it difficult for one to acquire and maintain the mindsets necessary to develop, grow and flourish. But its far from impossible. So seek, and ye shall find.

Author: ContraVerseSee

ContraVerseSee is designed to engage and appeal to folks in their 20s and 30s who are tackling life and the common joys, gripes, interests and intricacies these wondrous decades bring. The site’s primary contributor is a current educator and former journalist who is writing her way through life, love, mommy-hood and the organized chaos also known as her mind.

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