Survey Says…(Part II): Power

A couple of weeks ago, I reflected on a survey I’d taken with the girls in my advisory. At first, the survey was taking me down Obvious Avenue but ultimately routed me to “Oh Really?” Road. Talk about things that make you say “hmmm.”

I would swear up and down to anyone that security is a top priority for me — I need a job with benefits and money in my savings account just in case something goes awry. Yet, the survey said I am more of a “take it as it comes” person.

In contradiction, I also scored low on ‘adventure.’ And here I was thinking I was a wild child. Goes to show — just because you like ziplining, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re adventurous. Is this my wake-up call to take more risks? Look for excitement at every turn? Welcome the unusual? 

Don’t give me that look. I’m not going to rob any banks or turn into some kind of freak (probably) but I’m reminded to constantly welcome new and unique things into my life. It’s either that or start rockin’ bloomers under my mini-skirts.

On the other hand, I’m glad I’m no longer hung up on stability. With that, though, came the revelation that family isn’t my highest priority. This is the biggest upset of them all. I’m outraged! I love family! I’m all about the family!

Then again, the survey questions associated with family were a little biased. Just because I said I don’t think you always have to choose staying at home over going out with friends, I’m not all about family? Just because I said one shouldn’t avoid high-powered jobs to keep a marriage strong, I’m not all about family? Just because I said I might testify in court against a loved one, I’m not all about family?!?

Was this survey written in the 1950’s? Is this an episode of “The First 48?” Look, I’m a woman of the millennium (we can have it ALL) and if you do something egregious, I’m NOT going down for you. Love you, though 🙂

Moving on from that nonsense, I discovered power is important. I don’t see that in me. I think of myself as being pretty laid back and content with personal success. I suppose a part of success is having power. Cool.

Whatever you envision for yourself is fine. We’re all individuals with diverse desires and drives. Survey or not, figure you out. What do you value and what does that mean for your life? Let whatever you believe in move you towards your own version of fulfillment. Whether it’s beauty, brains or a bountiful income, be you. You have the power.

Survey Says… (Part I)

On Wednesday, the girls in my advisory filled out a survey to figure out what they value in life. A good idea, we thought, because it may be a challenge to articulate those sorts of things in the tenth grade. As they whipped out their pencils, I thought, “At 25, I’m not the best at articulating what I value either.” So, I decided to join in on the fun.

The survey was a whopping 104 statements on a Likert scale (very true, sometimes true, not sure, not true). Afterwards, you assign a different point value to your level of agreement with each statement. Once I tallied my points, I began to reflect.

Some of the results didn’t surprise me. According to the survey, I really value helping others, independence & freedom, and knowledge & truth. Ahhh, yes. This explains why I’m a special education teacher who prides herself on being self-sufficient.

The survey says I value friendship & companionship, as well as creativity. OK, little survey, you got me. Literature, music, theatre, fashion — I’m there. Mix with good company? All the better.

That’s where the obvious ended.

I’ll admit, I was a little embarrassed by how proud I felt when I found out I didn’t value recognition, money, or beauty and aesthetics as much as I thought I did. Way to be humble, Mercia. On the other hand, I’d like to think I highly value personal integrity and moral courage. No fear, right? However, the survey said otherwise. Oh well, you can’t win them all. No worries, though. I won’t pickpocket you or drown any kittens. I love kittens.

Pleasantries aside, the results got a little more intense from there. Stay tuned.