A couple of weeks ago, I reflected on a survey I’d taken with the girls in my advisory. At first, the survey was taking me down Obvious Avenue but ultimately routed me to “Oh Really?” Road. Talk about things that make you say “hmmm.”
I would swear up and down to anyone that security is a top priority for me — I need a job with benefits and money in my savings account just in case something goes awry. Yet, the survey said I am more of a “take it as it comes” person.
In contradiction, I also scored low on ‘adventure.’ And here I was thinking I was a wild child. Goes to show — just because you like ziplining, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re adventurous. Is this my wake-up call to take more risks? Look for excitement at every turn? Welcome the unusual?
Don’t give me that look. I’m not going to rob any banks or turn into some kind of freak (probably) but I’m reminded to constantly welcome new and unique things into my life. It’s either that or start rockin’ bloomers under my mini-skirts.
On the other hand, I’m glad I’m no longer hung up on stability. With that, though, came the revelation that family isn’t my highest priority. This is the biggest upset of them all. I’m outraged! I love family! I’m all about the family!
Then again, the survey questions associated with family were a little biased. Just because I said I don’t think you always have to choose staying at home over going out with friends, I’m not all about family? Just because I said one shouldn’t avoid high-powered jobs to keep a marriage strong, I’m not all about family? Just because I said I might testify in court against a loved one, I’m not all about family?!?
Was this survey written in the 1950’s? Is this an episode of “The First 48?” Look, I’m a woman of the millennium (we can have it ALL) and if you do something egregious, I’m NOT going down for you. Love you, though 🙂
Moving on from that nonsense, I discovered power is important. I don’t see that in me. I think of myself as being pretty laid back and content with personal success. I suppose a part of success is having power. Cool.
Whatever you envision for yourself is fine. We’re all individuals with diverse desires and drives. Survey or not, figure you out. What do you value and what does that mean for your life? Let whatever you believe in move you towards your own version of fulfillment. Whether it’s beauty, brains or a bountiful income, be you. You have the power.